best foot forward, two steps back
I dislike my job intensely at the best of times, for various reasons.
This week's reason is that yesterday a team member told a team member who told a team member who told me that the original team member felt that 'they' were bullying her. I take this to mean that I am one of 'them'.
It makes me rather nauseaus to find that my indifference towards someone can be twisted so maliciously. The team member in question holds herself aloof from the sociality which binds my team together and then complains when no one sends her pictures of kittens. If this team member were to take her hurt feelings to my boss it could potentially lead to disciplinary proceedings. I abhor faking being nice in order to avoid being reported for something I'm not even doing. It means she wins - she demands that everyone behave according to her will, even when that means forcing your personality down weird routes, without her ever making any concessions to the majority. Her cowardice makes me hate her. This from a woman who thinks she is fit to apply for positions where she would be leading others, too! Ridiculous.
I spent some time telling my new boyfriend's glazed expression about all this last night, before he floored me completely after I singlehandedly paid for our meal after a brief but desultory argument. No girl has ever done that before, he said. Apparently I am the first girl to stand her ground and wield her cash with pride. What is this?! I've never heard anything so backwardsly anti-equality. Stands to reason that boys like to be treated, too :)
This week's reason is that yesterday a team member told a team member who told a team member who told me that the original team member felt that 'they' were bullying her. I take this to mean that I am one of 'them'.
It makes me rather nauseaus to find that my indifference towards someone can be twisted so maliciously. The team member in question holds herself aloof from the sociality which binds my team together and then complains when no one sends her pictures of kittens. If this team member were to take her hurt feelings to my boss it could potentially lead to disciplinary proceedings. I abhor faking being nice in order to avoid being reported for something I'm not even doing. It means she wins - she demands that everyone behave according to her will, even when that means forcing your personality down weird routes, without her ever making any concessions to the majority. Her cowardice makes me hate her. This from a woman who thinks she is fit to apply for positions where she would be leading others, too! Ridiculous.
I spent some time telling my new boyfriend's glazed expression about all this last night, before he floored me completely after I singlehandedly paid for our meal after a brief but desultory argument. No girl has ever done that before, he said. Apparently I am the first girl to stand her ground and wield her cash with pride. What is this?! I've never heard anything so backwardsly anti-equality. Stands to reason that boys like to be treated, too :)
posted by Lucy at 10:03 pm
6 Comments:
You could always just, y'know, not care. I mean, it's irritating an' all, but it's not worth the time spent thinking about it. I used to fret about this sort of thing myself but really, unless you actually are bullying her, what's the point?
Also, you are the only woman who insists on paying her share or more than, most are quite happy to sit back and not. It's a strange world.
Duff her up in the car park. That'll keep her quiet.
If the worst comes to the worst, break down in front of your boss saying how hard you tried to include her, take her under your wing etc etc [tears would be good, with some wailing if you can get away with it] then go and hug her REALLY tightly.
Tom
Monarch of the Glen
Tom's plan sounds like one of the best things I've heard in ages...
James: when I am going to get my copy of The Time Travelling Wife back, you skank?
Eric and Rach: crying was high on my list of priorities if it came to a tribunal!
Just to be on the safe side, plant a gun in her house, preferably one that has been used to kill a cop.
That'll be your backup.
Lucy: When I next see you. I'll even throw in a copy of Cloud Atlas while I'm at it.
Also, I've tumbled several rungs down from skank, I sent a memo.
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